Let's get one thing out of the way, many women actually love nerds. Nerds are guys who are obsessed about certain body of knowledge. Maybe they specialize in a certain field of study and what happens is everything else basically pales in importance. This is very consequential because nine times out of ten, the first thing that they let go is social aptitude.
They simply don't know how to say hi. They don't know how to read social signals. They don't know what to say in certain moments. Accordingly, they say the wrong things at the wrong time to the wrong people. And of course, this all produces the wrong results. They become social outcasts. They're considered interpersonal lepers, and this basically puts them in a really unfortunate spot, as far as how people classify them.
And this really is too bad because a typical nerd has a lot to offer. If you need any proof of this, look at the top ten richest people on the planet and at least one of them is a nerd. And I'm of course, talking about Bill Gates. If you've ever seen pictures of him, as well as video footages of him in his younger days, you would know full well that he is a full on nerd.
There's no shame in that game and a lot of women are being turned on by nerds. You only need to look at one of the consistently highest rank TV sitcom shows in the United States to become aware of this fact. The Big Bang Theory is consistently ranked in the top ten, and it tracks the trials and tribulations of four nerd friends who work at Caltech in Pasadena, California.
Being a nerd is cool now. Who knew, right? A lot of women have fallen in love with nerds because they can be fascinating because of the depth of their knowledge and some women find it sexy that they can be some sort of sexual Sherpa guide to these guys because they don't know their dicks from their left foot. So the chick who's been around or knows how to work her body feels like she's exploring new territory with a guy who's sexually clueless so it's a win-win situation.
I'm not talking about nerds here. I'm talking about looking like a dork. This is a totally different thing. A dork is somebody who may otherwise be socially functional. Meaning, you know if somebody's hitting on you. You know if you're in an awkward situation because somebody said something that they're not supposed to say or send off signals that they're not supposed to send in that particular context.
In other words, you have, by and large, social graces and social rituals handled. But the problem is that you tend to do things the wrong way at the wrong times. In other words, you have a timing issue. When it comes to sex cams, or webcam sex shows, or any type of live adult entertainment, it's too easy to look like a dork, seriously. And among different sexual demographics out there, live mature women really bring out the dork in an otherwise confident mature adult male.
What the fuck is going on? Very simple. Guys, for the most part, are intimidated by strong women. A lot of guys get off on being the sexual guides of chicks who may have only fucked once or twice in their lives. They're basically virgins at some level or other. Guys get a lot of kicks showing a woman their sexual skills. Whether it's spreading her legs and eating her pussy out or flipping her over and tonguing her ass, they get a rush from the idea that they are somehow, someway guiding these women through unfamiliar sexual terrain.
When you're dealing with live mature women, all this shit goes out the window, seriously. Nine times out of ten, that mature chick that you're talking to on cam probably has done funkier and crazier shit sexually than you, seriously.
Gang bangs? Been there done that. Threesomes with lesbian action? Been there done that. You can basically go down the checklist with all the sexual taboos and fantasies you had, and many mature women have been there. They've done that. They've mastered it. To quote Julius Caesar, they came, they saw, they conquered.
Well, in the case of mature women or moms I'd like to fuck (MILF), they saw, they conquered, and they came. Make no mistake about it, live, mature women are the real deal and you cannot fucking step up to these chicks with no advance planning and with no clue, and come out not looking like a dork. It's just not going to happen.
They will get the best out of you and you're going to be thrown off track. You're just going to feel like you got hit by something out of left field. So if you want to make sure that you don't look like a dork when talking to live mature women on cam, pay attention to the following tips.
Be real
The first thing that you need to do is to decide to consciously not play any games. If there's any one thing mature women over 30 fucking hate more than cancer, its guys who play games. No fucking bullshit pickup lines, no corny jokes, no cheesy double entendres, none of that shut. Seriously.
Just talk straight. If you want her to do something, say it. If you want her to tell you something sexy about her, which is factual, say it. They don't have time to beat around the bush. They don't have time to screw around. A little bit of authenticity goes a long way.
Be honest with your insecurities
Mature women have a very nurturing aspect to them. I know it sounds crazy because these are the types of chicks that if you cross them, would gladly crush your testicles with their stiletto heels. No regrets. No remorse. No guilt. No bullshit. But they do have a soft spot.
Their spot are for guys who are vulnerable. I'm not talking about fake vulnerability here. I'm not talking about begging for pussy or crying for pussy. I'm not talking about emo sex shit. I'm talking about real vulnerability. And as long as you're consistent and as long as it's obvious to her that you're telling the truth, you will get a sympathetic ear.
This goes with the territory because they have a nurturing side. I'm not saying that you should exploit it. I'm just saying that this shows a different aspect of them, and it makes for a much deeper conversation. So if you want to really go places when it comes to trying to talk to live mature women who have been around the block, who have seen and survived those sorts of sex games, both mentally and emotionally, as well as physically, you need to come correct. Seriously. There's really no other way around it.
Pay attention to the two points I raised above. They may seem basic and simplistic, but believe me, a lot of guys can't even manage to do these, and that's why they fail again and again. They look like complete and total dorks. They look completely awkward and they get crushed. Don't be one of those guys. Instead, keep it real. Allow yourself to be vulnerable. As long as it's the truth, you should do just fine.